Motherhood is a very difficult thing to handle and it is totally okay to not want kids. Women can still be considered "real" women and can be a functional people without being a mother. However, if your goal in life is to be a mother then you do you and more power to you. If you don't want to be mother then power to you as well! Because motherhood isn't for everyone and we need to stop acting like it is.
After reading “What is Reproductive Justice?” by Stevens, this quote stood out to me the most, “reproductive justice is a framework conceived of by women of color, defined by the core belief that every woman has the right to decide if and when she will have a baby, to decide if she will not have a baby”. This quote inspired me to write this poem.
Not everyone can be a mother
some can’t be one and some don’t want to be one.
But we are all still “real women” yet misrepresented
didn’t ask for your judgement but talk until your heart’s content.
For some, being mother defines who they are
For others, not choosing to be mother is who they are
What’s wrong? What’s right?
I will be the one to decide.
Your worth is not contingent to reproduction
Your body and choices is not up for any discussion
You do you even though life gets tougher
You are still stronger and bolder
even though you didn't choose the same path as other
because not everyone wants to be a mother.
Reference
Stevens, A. (2017). What is Reproductive Justice? Against the Current, 32(2), 8.